Exclusive Brethren Excommunication

On our blogs we can see our blog statistic’s. For instance how many blog views there has been. Or what countries people who view come from. Or in regard to search engine uses . It even shows us what”search terms” were being used too.

Today someone had used the search term : “stages in separation for plymouth brethren

By that i suppose someone may have been trying to find out/understand . What hoops eb/ex eb people jump-through / what all the bells and whistles might entail in regard to the process leading up to when someone may finally find themselves living in “separation”. Which in the end can even mean excommunication from people within their own family as well too.

Let me describe this process . From point of view of my own personal experiences.

(1) When one sister of mine decided to become involved with a member of the opposite sex  an outsider who wasn’t exclusive brethren. A couple of priests (local big wigs) then quickly had a home-visit with her. Asking her to cease this contact with an outsider (non brethren). When she refused. Then my sister was excommunicated in the next meeting and the main-meeting room in the city we lived in. And from there on she had to cease with any continued contact with Exclusive Brethren members. Including any contact with us . Her flesh and blood family. Being thereafter treated even as if she were dead. Even by being promptly removed (kicked out) from within our family home.

(2) Only a few years later. Another sister and brother in law of mine. Reported to some local priestly big-wigs in their area . That they had found evidence that another local priest in the same area(big wig) was secretly involved in the ongoing practice of committing adultery. Having sex with woman outsider (non brethren) . But these local big wigs in their area didn’t want to accept that any such things could even be happening. So when my sister and brother wouldn’t back-down on these claims/accusations they had made. Well both my sister and brother in law were then just promptly excommunicated from within the Exclusive Brethren church . And even us sibling’s had to therefore excommunicate them too (all contact ceased ) With our sister and brother in law therefore thereafter being thus treated as if they were dead.

Some years later . The adulterous priest (as discussed above in (2)) was then finally also exposed/sprung by other Exclusive Brethren members to be involved in adultery. And was excommunicated.

In such situations as describe above. Brethren members would even be pretty much expected to also remove (destroy.cover up in photo album.burn) any photo’s they had of said excommunicated members too. And such was the hatered that Exclusive Brethren members would even choose to cross the road,rather than need to walk passed an ex eb member on the street footpath.

This example in (1) and (2) is only two personal experiences of mine in regard to members who were siblings within our  family. Very many more ex exclusive brethren members were also excommunicated in much the same manner. Even including a number of other relations of mine too.

And i suggest . That if anyone were found-out to dare be questioning a big wig and/or someone like Bruce Hales, even these days . The same practice could still also just-as-easily promptly take effect too.

For instance . See here for further verification (that its not just me saying this)

Taken off page 6 quote :

Re: From the Exclusive Brethren (Hales Group)

Post Tue Oct 15, 2013 7:51 am

Post a reply

When wining or dining or both with Mr Bruce, please note, that no-one and I mean no-one is allowed to ask him any questions. NO questions, do you hear that?? no reason given, just firm instructions, absolutely no questions to be asked of Mr B.”

:end quote

So this is the sort of process in place . Whats been in place for at least pretty much a whole generation now .  Don’t dare question !!

But is this really the Exclusive Brethren’s fault ? . Totally ?

No . I suggest not .

For religion has been set little/none boundaries .  Has been set-up with very little limitations. For so long . Religion has been allowed the freedom to exist as a “run-away-society” much like a wayward child. Unruly and existing in a kind temper tantrum mode being evermore resistant to any adoption of guidance or discipline .

Thus also being under the spell of such unruliness

And all our governments too, in acting like a shoal of stunned-mullet. Have all continually gone along with it. While taking no-responsibility. Of the outcome .

No responsibility . Of the ongoing harm being caused unto some people

Do i sound a little angry ?

Damn right i am a little angry . For indeed the life of even my own family upon this earth, has been warped and left to thus waste away in going to rack-and-ruin.Being blited by abusive-faith and religion Due in large to the detrimental effect that this Exclusive Brethren cult has been-allowed to have had on us all

And yet even unto this very day . Year 2013 .Unless finding themselves personally effected in some way. Still very few people seem to even care so much about it.

People . Even many church-folk . From a number of other non-brethren churches . Still continue to kind-of puff their chests-up (in a form of self pride). And continue to just try and point-fingers , only caring to try lay-blame of this ongoing situation . Entirely on the exclusive brethren alone

What sad-thoughtless-people they are !

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Ye Christians .Together . In-general by your ongoing lack of action in regard to helping stop these ongoing harms. Many times that still even may continue to happen within the same countries ye also live and worship in. Within a number of abusive-type faiths. Do in thus way. Also in actual effect. All agree. To continue to also thus-way help make a complete mockery of your own faith too Due to your continued personal silence and lack of action on such matters

Is indeed what actually also enables such nastiness the right to continue


Shame on you !!



About ExEB

I'm a agnostic/atheist . Interested in learning more about science. I also am an "ex-member" of a group most publicly known within modern times, as the Exclusive Brethren. Whom are an off-shoot of the original Plymouth Brethren group. I'd say it likely my personality could possibly be described as quirky.You know ,as in being , unconventional , unorthodox , unusual, off-centre, strange, bizarre, weird, peculiar, odd, freakish, outlandish, offbeat, out of the ordinary, bohemian, alternative, zany I'm sure iv'e been classed as "crazy" . Many times But then, being born into a group like the exclusive brethren. Doesn't lend itself ? to tend to produce things considered as being "very normal" .Does it I escaped the Exclusive Brethren cult as a 15 year old teenager. Even since that time iv'e been trying to adjust to living life outside the cult. With much of my life being lived within the genre of "wild colonial boy" style. In the general sense of a church-rebel picking and choosing from role models who appeared within-life along the way. But as the exclusive brethren cult had traditionally maintained a general church-rule , of need to shun and totally excommunicate any ex member of their group.Treating such people as if they were dead. Thus this situation developed more to do with my need of following traditionally enforced church-rule , as apposed to it being so much about "life-choices". Certain emotional experiences, and parts of life in general, have led to me adopting a sense of low self esteem. Which is a situation i still deal with from time to time. Through my ongoing interest in science. I find i am able to gather more information to help me better understand my situation. Much about life for me, has often seemed like a massive puzzle.With many missing pieces.
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2 Responses to Exclusive Brethren Excommunication

  1. Hi my sister and I were excommunicated many years ago. we lived in St Austell Cornwall
    I have had 2 marriages with 5 children from 1st .my sister also has struggled with relationships
    Just wondering if there were anyone around from Plymouth or St Austell that has also been thrown out and would like to get in touch all the best Big John

    • ExEB says:

      Hi John.Well there are (quietly) quite a fair number of ex-eb who do struggle within relationships.

      But then it’s exactly what we would expect to see anyway.If people are taught that ” even kinship” has no real intrinsic value. Then what value? should be placed on a relationship that by-now may only be considered to be
      merely “platonic”

      Sorry i cannot be of assistance with info of other ex-members from “Plymouth or St Austell” .Best advise i could give you (i feel) would be to suggest that you might consider the idea of making contact with other ex-members on wikipeebia sight . See here http://wikipeebia.com/forums/index.php

      The Wikipeebia sight, has many more people whom are constantly keeping in contact with each other.There is still a form of ongoing social interaction that happens there, even if the socializing may sometimes still feel like its kind of balancing on shaky-ground

      For instance.One shouldn’t expect to necessarily have freedom of speech.Or expect to be liked by everyone either perhaps,if indeed you were someone who were inclined to want to exercise that kind of “right”

      I feel that the gap between Eb and Ex Eb, is not always so far removed from each other. And so my blog is mostly here, as a way for me, to be able to have the right” to “freely” express that suggestion

      All the best ! to your family and you John.


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