A plea for victims to speak out about abuse


“It takes courage to expose scandals, particularly those involving allegations of sexual abuse, which continue to be whitewashed by powerful religious organisations such as the Exclusive Brethren.Michael Bachelard (Good Weekend and Saturday Age, 18/6) is to be congratulated for holding no punches ”



Many ex eb may have also experienced some form of childhood emotional neglect as well too.Which ? wont help much with their courage -levels (for more info google – running on empty)



Think about this situation. Some folks are now not sure who they can actually trust.Have trouble bonding ,and so on


Who? should we know that we can actually trust.


When we have also learned very well through a number of our past experiences,about how even members of our own flesh and blood family, have been known to be more than happy to just  sweep sex abuse allegations, under the carpet

Thing is. Not every single ex eb family, have all been cut from exactly the same cloth.And while there are some whom will still retain enough courage.It still doesnt follow-on from that, that everyone else will also be able to feel quite exactly the same way as well too


In some instances.Emotional neglect, is  even inclined to help cause a person to want to downplay their own experiences of abuse, and any feelings of neglect that then surround it. We may tend to think more about the “feelings” and “human rights” of “our family members” of whom we feel we might have need to drag into any police investigation that we may start rolling , even more than we may care to consider our own feelings and human rights


Folks may need to look beyond the aspect of courage if they want to find real answer as to why some ex eb have still remained “resistant” to the idea of making allegations to the police.Consider the wider issues


If someone were to ask me ,what do i feel hurts me the most.

  1. My past experience of sex abuse
  2. Or the ever present feelings that come along with the knowledge that even your own flesh and blood, may have become someone whom is more than happy to turn a blind eye, and effect also help sweep evidence of sex abuse under the carpet

Its easy for me to admit that it is number two that is what actually hurts
















About ExEB

I'm a agnostic/atheist . Interested in learning more about science. I also am an "ex-member" of a group most publicly known within modern times, as the Exclusive Brethren. Whom are an off-shoot of the original Plymouth Brethren group. I'd say it likely my personality could possibly be described as quirky.You know ,as in being , unconventional , unorthodox , unusual, off-centre, strange, bizarre, weird, peculiar, odd, freakish, outlandish, offbeat, out of the ordinary, bohemian, alternative, zany I'm sure iv'e been classed as "crazy" . Many times But then, being born into a group like the exclusive brethren. Doesn't lend itself ? to tend to produce things considered as being "very normal" .Does it I escaped the Exclusive Brethren cult as a 15 year old teenager. Even since that time iv'e been trying to adjust to living life outside the cult. With much of my life being lived within the genre of "wild colonial boy" style. In the general sense of a church-rebel picking and choosing from role models who appeared within-life along the way. But as the exclusive brethren cult had traditionally maintained a general church-rule , of need to shun and totally excommunicate any ex member of their group.Treating such people as if they were dead. Thus this situation developed more to do with my need of following traditionally enforced church-rule , as apposed to it being so much about "life-choices". Certain emotional experiences, and parts of life in general, have led to me adopting a sense of low self esteem. Which is a situation i still deal with from time to time. Through my ongoing interest in science. I find i am able to gather more information to help me better understand my situation. Much about life for me, has often seemed like a massive puzzle.With many missing pieces.
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