“It takes courage to expose scandals, particularly those involving allegations of sexual abuse, which continue to be whitewashed by powerful religious organisations such as the Exclusive Brethren.Michael Bachelard (Good Weekend and Saturday Age, 18/6) is to be congratulated for holding no punches ”
Many ex eb may have also experienced some form of childhood emotional neglect as well too.Which ? wont help much with their courage -levels (for more info google – running on empty)
Think about this situation. Some folks are now not sure who they can actually trust.Have trouble bonding ,and so on
Who? should we know that we can actually trust.
When we have also learned very well through a number of our past experiences,about how even members of our own flesh and blood family, have been known to be more than happy to just sweep sex abuse allegations, under the carpet
Thing is. Not every single ex eb family, have all been cut from exactly the same cloth.And while there are some whom will still retain enough courage.It still doesnt follow-on from that, that everyone else will also be able to feel quite exactly the same way as well too
In some instances.Emotional neglect, is even inclined to help cause a person to want to downplay their own experiences of abuse, and any feelings of neglect that then surround it. We may tend to think more about the “feelings” and “human rights” of “our family members” of whom we feel we might have need to drag into any police investigation that we may start rolling , even more than we may care to consider our own feelings and human rights
Folks may need to look beyond the aspect of courage if they want to find real answer as to why some ex eb have still remained “resistant” to the idea of making allegations to the police.Consider the wider issues
If someone were to ask me ,what do i feel hurts me the most.
- My past experience of sex abuse
- Or the ever present feelings that come along with the knowledge that even your own flesh and blood, may have become someone whom is more than happy to turn a blind eye, and effect also help sweep evidence of sex abuse under the carpet
Its easy for me to admit that it is number two that is what actually hurts