The more i think about it, i cannot help but empathize with people who find it difficult to deal with (internet hot zone) . I feel perhaps many of us do find it somewhat hard to deal with?.Whether the other persons belief, or faith,or whatever might even be completely opposite to mine.I’m beginning to learn to overlook that an see how we all still share some common ground together, within our humanity. Both bad and good.
What makes it harder for ex members of cults.Is, within our past, we have already been steeped inside space of closed groups.Steeped within black and white ideas.Where as, the internet is so wide open, and so full of colors,so that we may sometimes feel totally overwhelmed,or out of place, by something that naturally still seems so unfamiliar to us?.
No need to feel too overly ashamed, ourselves, about that. As we didnt choose it
Lets try to not allow it to divide. There is strength and power in maintaining numbers.In solidarity shared together .Even when times become tuff. Or even if real disagreements exist
Humility helps us recognize some of our own faults.So humanity and humility can act in conflict?.Even when we react to different degree , compared to what some other people may do.
Even so we all still remain human
Some science proposes, that something they call mirror neuron, might perhaps fire or light up,within ourselves, whenever we observe feeling and so on happening within others around us.For instance like with what we understand would also be most likely to hurt ourselves too.So perhaps its in some way connected with empathy trait?. Some others propose it might have some connection with our self-awareness .And so on
Consider the situation with the Thai boys that were trapped within that cave.
1.Consider the way that so many people,universally worldwide, had quickly become deeply interested and totally concerned, in regard of the outcome
2. Then consider how few people seem to gather the same amount of interest, or concern, in regard to tragedy of cults
So why this difference then ?.What might help explain it?. Might it be because its far easier for other people to empathize an see their own lives possibly being effected by some cave tragedy as well too ,than they ever could do within cults ?. Therefore the mirror neuron are also far more likely to fire up? (with regard of the cave scenario )
As a ex cult member whenever i see someone else ostracized or spurned .I feel something myself. Even if the feeling might be somewhat faint
However as hurt ex cult members, like what many of us all still are ,our ability to empathize has also already been stifled .Hasn’t it?.And often ever since we were very young children too. Because within our past, we also learned to stifle the feelings that might otherwise arise from observing pain and suffering within other people?.Because we may even learned to shun/disown members of our own family. We learned to stifle natural feelings. And some even experienced their own family members, disowning them too
It’s as if we now find it hard dealing with views that oppose our own.Perhaps we still fear that these opposing view, might soon need to also still signal some form of rejection?.
Everyone of us still has an amount of work to do?. To reprogram .
It might often seem near impossible. But perhaps we can still try an constantly make attempts.
Consider this element of hope that is ours right now, of what was once more or less a glaring impossibility, for ourselves, back in times when we previously existed within the cult.Even if our discussion might sometime still remind us, a little, of care meeting on Saturday? .
One aspect has totally changed for better. Hasn’t it?.For there is now no real requirement that we’d need to totally withdraw from anyone . Or need to agree either
An perhaps love can still sometimes begin to help cast out some of our fear
Perhaps the chains what had once held people as captives. Can now also slowly be adapted, to try an help bond people closer together ?