Triggers don’t occur the same for everyone
Ex member of high control groups, and cults will STILL react differently. This is not easy for people to understand or perhaps even accept as ok
Some will perhaps feel, or prefer to judge, that certain people are not been faithful enough to God.
But at the end of the day human life experiences can be so differnt.
As its aspect of nurture of what will have played a fairly big-part ?
There are people who’ll have been lucky enough to escape together with their parents and sibling
Those people then thankfully hopefully perhaps wont need to experience the full extent of family dysfuntion ,of what OTHERWISE sets in. While some other, might do, when their own level of family dysfunctions, cut even deeper. Upon having acted, to even go so far as to divide parent from children . And sibling from sibling
These difference in NURTURE processes
Are there. Even when some PEOPLE cannot imagine HOW they might be?
Some will still end up going on holiday with their closer-knit parents and siblings and so on. Or even get involved together FOR FUN in LOADS and loads of other really enjoyable and MEMORABLE things TOO, such as sport or hunting or fishing and whatever else that loads of luckier families, may do TOGETHER
I’d personally have loved to be able to SHARE FUN time TOGETHER with either one of my parent, with my children. As family. To see the children enjoy going fishing and hunting with their grandad or grandma
But then, there will be some-other of us for who this kind of fun MEMORY will have been MADE impossible
Others may have lost their parent, but thankfully will still have close sibling of what provide some form of a brotherhood as back-up. Others had lost both parent and then gained screwed-up sibling to boot, as well TOO, who then had often tended to act far more like an-enemy (without even intending to)
As its EVEN been ALLOWED TO also be MADE to be LEGAl to be able to end up that way too (for some)
Not that “others” will bother to dwell on that problem themselves TOO MUCH though. As lets face it, they’ll probably just as likely have way far less need to even ever bother? . Right?
Why would they?
Not that ALL will begin to understand why these difference might occur either. Sadly. Likely it wont even “dawn on” many. As that aspect, for themselves, is never been such a huge problem whats always hanging so fresh in their mind , or never is been QUITE so RAW feeling, for themselves personally either, within their own minds
However. Few set out to intentionally act as if they don’t care
Its simply a “natural” outcome , of what just happen all on its own accord
Some will then also be left with feeling of EXTRA amount of anger and EXTRA hurt and confusion and so on
Of what some-others will then also have some real great troubles themselves, with even BEGINNING to FULLY understand
Meanwhile , this group will have come from such ridged roots
They ALL also struggle continually , to ever feel TOTALLY at ease, again
They are bound to struggle with such things
Pretty much destined to, we might say
No matter how long they try to deny it?
Some have a hard trouble accepting these differnces. And partly due to their own faith in God of which they have retained themselves
Plenty will be thanking God for “looking over” them. While also judging that the problem with the others ,can only be explained by considering that some people will retain faith while others that wont
Very unfortunately , FOR US ALL, this kind of conclusion is like jumping to conclusion
Sadly its often people who claim to follow “just” and “kind” God footsteps, who’ll also be the ones far faster to misjudge ?
1.people who have the luxury of retaining faith in an eternity
2. others who dont
3 some who are not sure
Because all folks roots were once STEEPED in high control groups close-mindedness
Acceptance of differences, is like fighting a constant uphill battle
Perhaps best we can do. Is just hang on to hope for change