Dont allow yourselves to be bullied

Quote:

Peter M Clarke They ‘manage to bully’ because people ALLOW themselves to be bullied and the more they get away with with it,the more they do it ( saw all I needed to see of that with WB Hales ,and no, it WASN’T a ‘savage interruption’ ,when we kicked them out and out and sent them sent them packing,like whipped dogs with their tails between their legs there was great rejoicing and yes,I was THERE )The brethren culture seems to be built up around ‘kissing ass’…I don’t

end quote (my bold)

I totally agree. Bullies shouldn’t be allowed “to get away” with bullying

Never should be able to happen

Never

But then its also far to easy too, to think of these situation, from outlook of our own lives only. By taking part in doing it that way, we may miss the answer, as to:

1.Why it is that so many are still continuing to be bullied.

2.Why it is that a fair number are even continuing to commit suicide too

3 why there are so many who cannot seem to stand up for themselves or their own right ,so as to not need to experience being bullied

Surely nobody in their right mind thinks that people are simply not stopping others from bullying them, because they just don’t want to bother to try?. Or perhaps because they must enjoy the feeling of themselves being bullied?

Obviously not

Therefore there must be something else of whats going on here.Another explanation to help provide reason for why it happens, like the way it does

This is where, we as human, will have need to try and place ourselves, within the life of another person. We have need ,to closely study the finer detail of differences,between that what our own lives have been like, then (imagine via method of intuition) compare it to finer details of another persons life

Only then can we begin to understand the full reason for why?

For instance. It can be real easy, far an adult who had been constantly supported by parents of their own within their own lives. To then not begin to understand why the “parent-less” children, might differ greatly in their own ability to ever be able to overcome from being bullied themselves

The person who’d lack ability to understand this, may say, oh well i wont allow myself to be bullied like that. I wont. And so therefore i cannot begin to understand, why anyone else, would ever be allowing it to continue to happen, to them

See how very easy this misunderstanding can occur?

Little do they realize it though, that we (who have been bullied often) had experienced so constantly, throughout our whole lives, that we’d more or less had to have grown, to have need to begin to even accept it as if it were something normal

Something of like what we should expect to experience

It began feel like it was some how meant to be, our lot in life?

The evil way that so called religious liberty is been set up, many times even PROPPED UP by pious simple believer TOO (who all simply stood by in silence, and did nothing to stop it happening), as the lie like what its been upheld as.

This has in affect served to partly help seal our fate in perpetuation throughout time

Correct?

As atheist, born into religious background, of whom were also honest and authentic in our non belief. This then meant that our lives would then be set on a pathway, where by we would experience being shunned and mistreated, to be left to struggle our own way throughout life, without any source of guidance or support, or help of elders

This is how it was set-up to be

Simply all because of how we didn’t belong to the CULT club of Christendom

Correct?

Our own honesty and need for authenticity became our downfall

And yet

And yet had we’d been willing to lie and pretend to be believers, like what so many other people, within our world, are STILL constantly being forced to have need to do. So as to survive their life better  easier. So as to try and gain guidance and support on how to approach the situation of bullying

Then our own lives ,might then have been able to be far easier going too?

Because believers are inadvertently in fact been acting in ways so as to help support liars 

They have been ?

Some of these liars, may then even go on to sexually abuse children, while acting as priest within churches too. Because they have pretty much been  rewarded for the art of learning how to act as liars, often ever since time of their birth. A persons authenticity of lying has therefore been something constantly rewarded , and even within the cult of Christendom as well too

Sadly so

This evil is been propped up, by believers unwillingness to address the truth of religious liberty 

Correct?

If i were a believer. I’d be hoping like hell that perhaps the atheist are correct

I would

All the hours and hours and hour served in “brown nosing” a-God. All the hours of groveling and constantly “ass licking his butt cheek” left right and center.

Possibly wont help to cover the extreme harm of what has been allowed to occur to so many. This harm happening due to believers stubborn unwillingness to address truth of religious liberty

Possibly wont do?

However. Today im now finally able to begin to feel very thankful for the kind of struggles of like what ive experienced in my own life. I really am. And also kind of surprise how im becoming more and more thankful too, by the day. Because i can now see, that had i had a life what were very different, to what i have had. Of what were not faced with the same level of struggles of like what i have been faced with.

Then i now realize, that i’d then have been far less able then to, to have ever gained an ability, to understand the sorts of things like what i’m beginning to be able to better understand, right now

I might have missed out on that ability to learn how to understand the lives of loads of OTHER people, who also still struggle too

So in this sense, i can see/sense that there is actually been a “type of silver lining” to this valuable experience. Some would say that its been a blessing . Not everyone is lucky enough to have the chance to gain the kind of knowledge, of what most usually can only ever be gained best, by a person having spent enough time while “studying aspect of life within school of hard knocks”

Today this kind of knowledge is now becoming ever so much more valuable now to.

Correct?

Simply because of the high population of human being who ALL now happen to live their style of troublesome lives too , which also would only continue to happen, in the main part due to widespread lack of knowledge, of this-type

Troublesome lives, can only still manage to remain  prevalent , mostly due to human lack of understanding

For instance.Our world is full of people who still fail to begin to understand reason for why the bullied people, would still remain unable, to help stop themselves from experiencing being bullied by others

Correct?

Religious background, is behind one reason for why bullying can happen to certain people in this wat

Only one reason

Other reason can stem from others things too, such as poverty . Or stem from dysfunction of family violence . Many times these two/three things combined, can also all go hand in hand, as well

Its complex

More lately, since the arrival of our new government, finally i have now (thankfully) begun to be able to receive the EXACT kind of “practical support” ,of like what i have spent most of best part of the past 40+ years, constantly begging to doctors and mental health practitioner (IE: the so-called “well learned”  university educated people) to have made available (to me)

What did they generally usually do, to answer my request ?

  1. They’d demand that i’d try more and more pills
  2. They’d try and tell me to do breathing exercises
  3. They’d tell me it were because i wasn’t trying hard enough
  4. When that sort of carry on didn’t work, and after i’d attempted to complain to human rights channel, who’d then be stupid enough themselves to pass me right on back to the very same misinformed professional hands, again, of who’d then proceed to talk me into signing myself off of their books. To save themselves the trouble. While still continuing to get paid their wages, of university trained professional level of payment. More or less being paid to disregard all of what i’d been trying to explain id been needing, for past 40+

My point is this

People can be stupid. They cannot grasp how highly important PRACTICAL HELP, in life, can be. Worse people too, are often the educated university trained people. They don’t tend to learn by intuition, but will need to learn after having answers spelled-out plainly and clearly laid out within books, or via some lecture of which must have need to involved some other highly educated person too

Any less than that, would simply “seem to be unacceptable” to accept . Like’ they’ll bluntly refuse to listen to any lay-man’s point of view . That idea, usually wont sit well with an educated inflated ego 

If people are honestly wanting to help. If people would honestly care. Then the first step forward is to try to “think of ourselves” , as if in a way of what would help ourselves begin to imagine (INTUITION) what it might otherwise feel like , if in fact we were “another person” and therefore being forced to need to be living their life (instead of living only our own life)

 

This way of understanding, is important with regard of our ability of being able in understanding lives of all kind of “OTHER” people .

We’ve ALL  really messed up in this regard? (myself included)

For instance. Before we set about judging the way of angry people, some who’d sacrifice themselves while blowing other people up with bombs, and so forth.Or even human who’ll murder people, and then end up on death-row. Lets first of all consider ourselves as being very lucky people. We are lucky in the sense being that at least our life experiences, have not helped to have turned us into people who’d ever consider to do these kind of things. We didn’t be faced with need of growing up as children , with bombs falling all around about us?. We didn’t have need to see the blood and guts, of people we love, strewn about in the rubble of concrete and broken building. Didn’t have need to leave the country where we were born. More than likely didn’t have need to share anywhere near the same level of hurt . Our early childhood, was thankfully not so-blighted by poverty and violence, to level of like what some children were are being constantly “steeped-within

Not that it makes these things “ok”

It doesn’t

My point is

To gain a better understanding of others, in regard of reason for why they’d happen. First step is, for ourselves is. to imagine and be able to “totally picture ourselves” almost as if we were ACTUALLY able to be the people walking a mile or two, in the shoes of “someone else”

Been living/experiencing their lives

This might then help all of US human. To find more middle ground.To learn to care and love each other more. So that we might then join together to try to work toward a more peaceful style of living

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

About ExEB

I'm a agnostic/atheist . Interested in learning more about science. I also am an "ex-member" of a group most publicly known within modern times, as the Exclusive Brethren. Whom are an off-shoot of the original Plymouth Brethren group. I'd say it likely my personality could possibly be described as quirky.You know ,as in being , unconventional , unorthodox , unusual, off-centre, strange, bizarre, weird, peculiar, odd, freakish, outlandish, offbeat, out of the ordinary, bohemian, alternative, zany I'm sure iv'e been classed as "crazy" . Many times But then, being born into a group like the exclusive brethren. Doesn't lend itself ? to tend to produce things considered as being "very normal" .Does it I escaped the Exclusive Brethren cult as a 15 year old teenager. Even since that time iv'e been trying to adjust to living life outside the cult. With much of my life being lived within the genre of "wild colonial boy" style. In the general sense of a church-rebel picking and choosing from role models who appeared within-life along the way. But as the exclusive brethren cult had traditionally maintained a general church-rule , of need to shun and totally excommunicate any ex member of their group.Treating such people as if they were dead. Thus this situation developed more to do with my need of following traditionally enforced church-rule , as apposed to it being so much about "life-choices". Certain emotional experiences, and parts of life in general, have led to me adopting a sense of low self esteem. Which is a situation i still deal with from time to time. Through my ongoing interest in science. I find i am able to gather more information to help me better understand my situation. Much about life for me, has often seemed like a massive puzzle.With many missing pieces.
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