When To Cut Toxic Family Members From Your Life

When To Cut Toxic Family Members From Your Life

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I soon realized in my life, that trying to create a two sided family relationship, with family who were believers, while i’m an atheist, was simply a toxic waste of time

Relationships that are only ever going to be one sided. will tend to leave you feeling ripped off. These days, family relationships, are often disingenuous .  Family may “pretend to want to have a close family relationship”, but then that’s all it truthfully is, only ever amount to being little more than a charade 

My nature ,with being on the better side of 100% sincere , along with also being an empath minded personality and all, in reality its soon clear to me that in the long-run it’s not at all good for my health

For instance, when Bruce Hales almighty boo boo review wrecker, had ordered certain eb-member of my family, to suddenly arrive and come knock on my door. Its was my nature to welcome them back into my life. To be 100 % genuine in forgiving them. To pretty much automatically kill the fatted calf in great joy, to drop tools in forgetting about my own life in that time, to quickly within a matter of weeks travel hundreds of miles away, so as to go spend well over a month with eb family. Living with them, and even also enjoying to help them in taking part, in the work of what they are involved in. Even being prepared to put up with manipulation of what caused my brother to attempt suicide, my reaction to this were to try to help do my very best, to do all i could do to try and bring this family of mine, back together

Simply because, for me to see them divide, wasn’t something of what would ever make “me feel” good

But alas . It soon became obvious that it were like i was wasting my own time in continually trying to push shit uphill 

Sadly its not only like this with my eb family. As its very little better, either, among my ex eb family

Its like a cancer. Something what is way way out of my own power alone, to ever be able to repair

What makes this worse is that i don’t stand a shit show in hell, to get any other family member to see that , if we are wanting our family to ever mend , then it will require far more than one family member, to first of all be willing to be prepared to give it 100 %

Most of them will be content to piss around , to half halfheartedly pretend to try, and meanwhile about all it actually ever manage to achieve is to make themselves feel better

They’ll all happily settle for mediocre family relationship

Certainly wont be bothered to be losing any of their own sleep over the sad state of it either

But hey

This is family. We don’t get to pick and choose family.Do we?

And seeing as our family are religious nutters , there is then also a far higher chance as well, that lost and lonely people like ourselves are set to become, will live a life of what will cause us to become more of a needy type person too ,than what we otherwise might have had needed to become like, had we instead been lucky enough to have had stable loving and kind family.

But we didn’t stand a chance to have a family like that.

Due to bullshit of so called religious liberty (of whats  realistically a form of religious tyranny)

We’ll therefore be far more likely to end up making mistakes too, within relationship of what we will fall-into along the lonely road in life. The situation is preset to snowball, too, being that there is a higher chance we ourselves may create our own children, within dysfunctional relationship of what in reality were possibly better not to have happened

Meanwhile our Prime minister Jacinda Kate Laurell Ardern, is seen on media, talking about how Kiwi are living their lives like how “one people” would

Why?

I guess, perhaps because, she hopes it might help to make her own prime minister , world ” ratings “, seem to be so jolly-wonderful 

When we have family, who’ll be happy to accept “half hearted family relationship”, as normal

We then have two choices

  1. lower our own sense of value, and therefore learn how to also accept it, as normal, ourselves as well too (IE: join the-flow of the majority rule. Discarding our authenticity )
  2.  Or cut ties with the toxic unworthy relationship

In more recent years, ive now pretty much been adopted into a worldly family, one that has absolutely no blood-relationship, to me. they treat me more like a family member , than what ive ever felt like, i honestly were

They are people who are very authentic & genuine , in regard of the way they approach the family relationship

Truth is, chances are that i wouldn’t even be still alive today myself now, either, had i not had the stroke of luck, of renting one of their farm houses

Best thing that ever happened to me in my whole life . Because they genuinely do care about me. I know it. To simply be able to sense that that’s actually something of whats for real, really does help to make all the difference, to a humans life

Its a genuinely two way relationship

 

About ExEB

I'm a agnostic/atheist . Interested in learning more about science. I also am an "ex-member" of a group most publicly known within modern times, as the Exclusive Brethren. Whom are an off-shoot of the original Plymouth Brethren group. I'd say it likely my personality could possibly be described as quirky.You know ,as in being , unconventional , unorthodox , unusual, off-centre, strange, bizarre, weird, peculiar, odd, freakish, outlandish, offbeat, out of the ordinary, bohemian, alternative, zany I'm sure iv'e been classed as "crazy" . Many times But then, being born into a group like the exclusive brethren. Doesn't lend itself ? to tend to produce things considered as being "very normal" .Does it I escaped the Exclusive Brethren cult as a 15 year old teenager. Even since that time iv'e been trying to adjust to living life outside the cult. With much of my life being lived within the genre of "wild colonial boy" style. In the general sense of a church-rebel picking and choosing from role models who appeared within-life along the way. But as the exclusive brethren cult had traditionally maintained a general church-rule , of need to shun and totally excommunicate any ex member of their group.Treating such people as if they were dead. Thus this situation developed more to do with my need of following traditionally enforced church-rule , as apposed to it being so much about "life-choices". Certain emotional experiences, and parts of life in general, have led to me adopting a sense of low self esteem. Which is a situation i still deal with from time to time. Through my ongoing interest in science. I find i am able to gather more information to help me better understand my situation. Much about life for me, has often seemed like a massive puzzle.With many missing pieces.
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