Interesting video. I expect that the church IS a hotbed for narcissism and narcissist abuse. For one thing, even outside of cult groups,believer are more supportive of believers. Therefore children within a family who’ll approve of belief in a-God, will also be the ones who’ll be treated better
Growing up in our household there was shaming.Our needs didnt matter, as it was the cult dictate what always demanded to become first. So called bullshit about “righteousness” for God. God was always being constantly treated like the overly demanding spoilt child
God would ruin all our fun. Ruin our family relationships and all. By aged 4 (or 5) , i remember our mother making the demand (due to Brethren dictate) that all the rest of us sibling would have need to totally disown our second eldest sister. What had happen, was that our sister had been raped (or something like that) by another brethren church member. Pretty sure that our sister was then made to apologize in front of members of the whole
church cult congregation. Naturally our sister was thereafter very unhappy within the cult. Wouldn’t have (and for wrong reason felt ashamed) wanted to go back to church cult meetings. So she ended up hooking up with our neighbor (in a relationship)who was a non eb, and also was Chinese. Which was even worse considering that this Brethren cult has also traditionally seen Asian people like as if they are in some way directly connected to evil, or something
The outcome was, that our sister was thrown out our house. While the rest of us were then also instructed to need to shun and disown her thereafter.
I still remember the time fairly vividly. I could never have stopped loving this sister.I can remember myself begging and pleading with our mother, for us to please be able to still continue on loving our sister. And being told the supposed reason for why we couldn’t/shouldn’t. The convoluted twisted deceitful Brethren–concocted story of our sisters supposed act of evil, blah blah blah. The threat of hell ,and what ever else. Remember how bad it all hurt.How my heart felt deeply broken. Can remember how it had made me begin to see how vulnerable all our own situation also all were too. I believe that this is the moment when i first began to grow into attachment problem. Problem of what were also set to worsen even further, as years went by, when one by one even more and more of our sibling would then also be gotten rid of ,as well, by the very same method as well
Ditched and disowned as if they hadn’t even existed. Or, as if they’d suddenly died (ceased to exist, to extent, as if they were now dead)
I now understand, reason for why, i still have big ongoing trouble with C-PTSD
Pity i only began to finally begin to fully understand, now (bureaucracy within mental health department sure hasn’t helped the situation any. Those places are manned by highly educated people who’ll all find it easy to pass exam, yet still don’t hardly happen have even a minute tiny speck of intuition, sadly. They wont know how best to approach a situation, UNLESS , the direction of exactly how to approach and attend to things has already been recorded within some specific designated work-manual. Our countries are manned by vast amounts of these type people. People who learn via intuition,generally wont often even get a slight chance to secure a job in these position. Because people are being employed by appearance of their CV)
So,within our life while we were all growing up, it was rather like a situation of, if the cult isn’t happy, then nobodies able to be happy (as apposed to situation of ,”if mumma’s not happy, nobodies happy” . like what were talked about within the video above)
Different to some degree ,and yet still so similar that its hardly worth measuring the difference in outcome
Or who knows, maybe “the outcome” could even perhaps be far-worse?
They (the brethren as a group) together ALL acted like a highly organized bunch of narcissists. Life was all about them. All about their need.They had no compassion , no empathy,for others, and then whats even worse they then have absolutely no conscience, about that sad fact,EITHER
Bunch of horridly sick people (the brethren)
Bunch of morally sick people masquerading as a bunch of “morally superior” people
Anyway, thereafter, all us sibling, from our family, all grew up carrying forward some kind of attachment issue. We all still have trouble with bonding within any kind of relationship.
I feel more and more convinced, that quite likely, all of our attachment problem will stem from our early childhood experiences ,of what stem from the Brethren-cult dictate
These attachment problem ,are also a problem outside of our own family. Because i feel i even see sign of the same problem with attachment-issues, even rearing its head upon ex eb forum, as well. Which is nothing surprising
All the ex cult member, have mostly all also experienced the very same narcissist style “church upbringing” as well too.
Therefore its little wonder they’ll ALL have attachment problem. Issues with unconditional love. Issues over unconditional acceptance of each other . And so on
I feel convinced, that if a-God does in fact exist. Then for sure this God must surely see the Brethren as being disgustingly distasteful
The brethren must make God feel like throwing up “in disgust”?
Yet there they ALL are. Still marching forward under the same old feeble lie of pretending to be separating from evil
Hell, meanwhile their hierarchy are still even BEEN involved in doing all kind of manipulative cunning shit. Certainly evil . Such as this https://www.stuff.co.nz/world/australia/98220593/potential-witness-in-exclusive-brethren-sex-abuse-case-paid-to-remain-silent
Brethren STILL don’t wake up
The all blunder on mindlessly . Their minds focused on money making. Or on trying to convince the citizen of how wonderfully “charitable” the brethren folk are , by inventing their rapid relief team facade
And yet meanwhile they still haven’t HONESTLY apologized to thousands of families who’s lives they had helped to ruin
The nearest they came to apologizing , was back within the time of the review. But yet, there again,even back then this apology wasn’t EVER motivated by TRUE brethren remorse
No. Once again. It was motivated by brethren cunning
Brethren inner evil
Sadly the Brethren have long lost any real sense of conscience . With no conscience they have little empathy, and also very little compassion either (because of reason how, conscience ,compassion and empathy will generally all go hand in hand together)
If a-God does exist. This God must surely feel mighty angry at Brethren. Even angrier too, on each Sunday morning around 6am when these brethren all parade into their dull boring windowless meeting room. Putting on the Ritz in pretending to be righteous . Separate from evil
All pretending to have truthfully apologized
Brethren folk Putting on the Ritz on every Sunday , for God
More likely, God might feel far happier if Brethren just didn’t bother to even be involved with acting-out their facade
Meanwhile their cult still hide the dirty rotten secret of their ways of constantly trying to cover up the rapes and sex abuses that their own hierarchy were actively involved in sweeping under the carpet
They try to forget about it (easier to do too,with the well rehearsed Brethren-style “conscience” . Kind of “make-believe” style conscience)
Those brethren folk sit there in those brethren meeting hall, sitting along side of these hideously evil member of hierarchy (ones who actively conspired to cover up evidence of sex abuse and so on)
They feel great ? . Feel wonderful. Feel blessed to be “separated from evil”
What a joke
Separated from evil?? … pfffffftttt
Must be joking
What a bunch of idiots . Bunch of complete fools. I bet that every single Sunday they must ALL surely serve to anger God , no end
If in fact a-God does exist
Imagine being God who’s looking down on earth. Seeing the Brethren folk, within their facade of so called “separation from unrighteousness” facade , all filing into the brethren meeting room on Sunday morning. Sitting there “right alongside“these cunning hierarchy creep who have helped conspire to cover up sex abuse
Meanwhile pretending to have separated from unrighteousness
The bigotry of that must enrage Gods feeling ?
Meanwhile they ALL still haven’t yet truly apologized to anyone themselves as yet either, to all the thousands of families of what their bigoted group has hurt over generations
They didn’t manage to truthfully apologize to anyone. Did they
Because of reason that
Their hierarchy,mainly including direction of one Bruce review wrecker Hale’s , were more focused on maintaining their own options to retain control of option to be able to become even more wealthy
Greed for money had got in the way
Greed for wealth was worshiped
Therefore conscience was devalued . When conscience was devalued then compassion and empathy had also needed to be buried
Bruce Hale is far to small a man to ever care to admit to his own part in messing up the Brethren review
The man is way to small to ever dare to admit to being wrong?
FAR TO SMALL
The man doesn’t have a conscience. His conscience is long been buried under his constant craving for greed and money
He’s a sad sad person. A gutless low life money hungry creep basically . Not sure what anyone even see in him?. Imagine what it must feel like,for a woman trying to make love to a small man like him, a greedy man who’s obviously completely void of a conscience (considering cunning plan to create contract to silence whistle blower, and in aid of hiding evidence of sex abuse) , a small-man who’s without enough guts to ever admit to messing up the review for ALL THE BRETHREN FOLK who were involved
Poor things (the lot of them)
If a god exist. The sickening sight of this Brethren-facade filing in to worship every Sunday morning at 6 am , must highly enrage God?
Must make God feel like he’d want to “throw-up” right?
Even the fact that Bruce Hales is very selective , in regard to who he will dare attempt to hassle , through court battle
Also help to prove what a totally small-man creep that Bruce review wrecker Hale’s, really is
Iv’e been waiting for the small-man creep, Bruce review wrecker Hales, to dare to try hassling me. Sick of seeing the small man creep keep on only picking on easy targets . Target of what he very carefully select ,so that they wont back-fire
What wrong with our society . With our citizen in general. That they allow these cults to continue to ruin families. To create unsocial human being who’d all grow up to be void of empathy and compassion
Narcissist attitude have now become so widespread within Brethren circle. They will “think nothing bad” of their cunning act to try and quickly send out a Brethren-highly-organized “rapid relief clean-up team” so to cover up evidence of criminal act involved in road accident https://www.nzherald.co.nz/nz/news/article.cfm?c_id=1&objectid=12015112
No conscience= no compassion=no empathy
More than likely, perhaps they hadn’t thought to even consider about how “the-other” non eb public onlooker might feel about seeing it happen?
The thought about “other people feelings” , is never so highly-positioned on Brethren agenda
They live as if nobody else’s feeling ever even matters so much
Its all about what the Brethren want?. What there own demand are about. Whether they can find any cunning way in which to help uphold the facade of their rapid relief team bullshit-front
If a cover up need to happen. To help them still achieve this goal
Then also be best for Brethren to bury their conscience ?
No conscience= no compassion= no empathy