The shame people feel when they come from narcissistic families

I relate to this video. All my life i felt like as if i could see a totally different approach to the way that family could co exist.A alternative way of being, to way of what our family and extended families had chosen. I felt as if i could plainly see how there were so many other families ,around about us, of who were already able to be ALL benefiting, from choosing to follow this alternative way of being

That alternative way of being ,seemed so close, and yet also still seemed to remain just a little to far out of our reach. Unless we’d see a way in which to reunite so as to all reach out together to help grasp a hold of it

That act would require a team effort. And yet, our family is always acting as everyone of us would need to be looked upon as being on a whole separate team.That’s the only way what they know

Iv’e even experienced situation where sibling set out to purposely try to do me in. Years later, they’d explain, how it was driven by their own feeling of jealousy.Their attempt to do me in ,was an attempt to level the playing field . Meaning , they’d obviously had no recognition, of our family being all part of the same team

All my life, i could never understand how “other family members could all still find ways in which to remain proud of themselves“, after leaving another family member, for dead 

These days, i now understand that family have in fact lost knowledge of  their interconnection

They no longer see/understand, the knowledge, that “by allowing harm to occur to another family member”, is still in fact an act of actually allowing harm to also occur to oneself 

They lost sight of the knowledge that they play on the same team

This knowledge of human interconnect goes even further . In the sense that all of us human being, are generally still related . As humanity, we’d all still play our own part “in team-humanity” 

We overlook the reality

When the neighbors children are missing out on quality parenting. We’d refuse to see those neighbors children as, in a sense , “still being some of our children”. When they’d fall into bad company, and be learning about bad habits, drinking and driving or involvement in violence and so on. Habit what ultimately lead to criminal offense, of what then cause need for larger jails.

Us human still refuse to accept how we’d be all part of the same team. The “us versus them” mentality goes way deep. Doesn’t it?. It never occurs to us how we human “are all paying a part of the costs” of society. Including the rising cost of our jails. Our health services. Our social services. And so on Therefore obviously do still remain on the same team


You’d hope that a crisis like what the crona virus situation has brought upon us, might serve so as to help wake the human up to the reality of the closeness of their interconnection 

Might help make them become more aware of need for teamwork

Might enlighten them to the fact that they still do ALL play for the same team

Might help them realize how they’ll be bound to only continue to do further harm unto themselves in around about way, as well, unless they’d finally see reason to alter their ways of being

Every generation tries to get by, in their own lives, without need of facing up to it. Don’t they?


They figure, if i can just live with it, and handle it being the way that it is been handled, until i can die .So as to then forget about it Then things will be all just fine . 

They’d overlook the way the same situation still remains the growing problem. for future generations ahead

I feel,its not hard to see reason why some people are saying that our society is generally headed in a direction towards narcissism.Human are taught, almost from cradle unto their grave, to be acting as if they’d all be on separate teams 

When a virus crisis arrives. It has the short term affect of reminding human about how they play on the same team. But then soon enough,once the crisis passes, they’ll get tired of the-teamwork. 




About ExEB

I'm a agnostic/atheist . Interested in learning more about science. I also am an "ex-member" of a group most publicly known within modern times, as the Exclusive Brethren. Whom are an off-shoot of the original Plymouth Brethren group. I'd say it likely my personality could possibly be described as quirky.You know ,as in being , unconventional , unorthodox , unusual, off-centre, strange, bizarre, weird, peculiar, odd, freakish, outlandish, offbeat, out of the ordinary, bohemian, alternative, zany I'm sure iv'e been classed as "crazy" . Many times But then, being born into a group like the exclusive brethren. Doesn't lend itself ? to tend to produce things considered as being "very normal" .Does it I escaped the Exclusive Brethren cult as a 15 year old teenager. Even since that time iv'e been trying to adjust to living life outside the cult. With much of my life being lived within the genre of "wild colonial boy" style. In the general sense of a church-rebel picking and choosing from role models who appeared within-life along the way. But as the exclusive brethren cult had traditionally maintained a general church-rule , of need to shun and totally excommunicate any ex member of their group.Treating such people as if they were dead. Thus this situation developed more to do with my need of following traditionally enforced church-rule , as apposed to it being so much about "life-choices". Certain emotional experiences, and parts of life in general, have led to me adopting a sense of low self esteem. Which is a situation i still deal with from time to time. Through my ongoing interest in science. I find i am able to gather more information to help me better understand my situation. Much about life for me, has often seemed like a massive puzzle.With many missing pieces.
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